When was the last time you sent some love your way?
It’s a common predicament, including those who consider themselves a loving person, to neglect giving that compassionate love to yourself. When you’re the last person to receive your own love, it creates a painful split in the psyche that may be hidden. Part of you becomes your own neglected child.
When you split off or neglect a part of yourself, you don’t have access to the full set of resources available within you. It keeps you from fully living the purpose that calls you.
There’s a very simple but effective practice that welcomes out the lost parts of yourself. I was recently reminded of this powerful work by Shirzad Chamine and Lee Glickstein. All that’s required is a hand mirror and a few minutes of your time. It’s best to find a quiet private space where you won’t be interrupted.
Hold the mirror up in front of your face, and gaze into your eyes. Notice any judgmental thoughts that pop up having to do with superficial aspects of your appearance, and gently set them aside. Your task is to get in touch with the deep love that is available for the depths of who you are, the essence of you.
Start out with 2-minute gazing sessions with yourself. As you get more used to the practice, increase the time to 5 minutes.
When you feel ready, begin using the time to talk to yourself. Express what you appreciate about yourself, even something as simple as the willingness to do this exercise. There may be some other things to offer as support in these times.
It’s fabulous to do this as a daily practice for a week, then see where you want to go with it. Perhaps weekly, or just when you need it.
What are you discovering about yourself, and how does it feel to be loved and supported by yourself?
Have fun with this and let me know how it goes!